Whether You Like It Or Not
My needs above yours…at any cost.
In my post, “It’s Not Just About Love” I brought up the idea that there are more intentions, more drives at play with the same sex marriage debate than just love. There is more at stake as well, but for a moment I want to focus on the intentions, the goals of the gay movement. They say it’s just about love, but I think it’s about affirmation and acceptance, about domination of ideas, my needs above yours at any cost.
Our friends in the gay community ask us to accept changing the definition of marriage from one man and one woman, because their heart’s desires are excluded. Are we unfair? Biased? Bigoted? Homophobic? No. The idea that desires sometimes go unmet for the greater good is part of life for responsible adults. Gay marriage at the expense of our children’s development, and our social stability is not a responsible path. If my heart’s desire is to two partners, I am free to act on that desire, but I am not free to call it marriage, no matter how much I may want it and feel lost without it. The consequences for society are too great.
It seems that there is a need in the gay community for affirmation, for society to stop “looking down” on the gay lifestyle. There is a tendency to blame all the misery they feel, and the harm they do to themselves and others on society because their lifestyle choices are not morally accepted in society. Somehow everything is supposed to change, people will be happy, once they’re accepted. How does changing the definition of marriage all of a sudden bring the light of happiness into a same sex couple’s life like we’re being told it will? It doesn’t.
I’ve made enough mistakes in my life to know, that just because someone says what I’m doing is ok, it doesn’t make the guilt I feel go away. People have no effect on God’s laws. If it’s wrong now, it will still be wrong even if all the courts in the land say it’s not. Morality is not peer driven. Does the gay community believe their misery will be lifted if we’re all affirming their lifestyle by inclusion? The guilt will not go away, it will just spread as we include our children in the sphere of exposure. If you’re not happy now, changing the definition of marriage won’t make you happy either.
Here’s an article that was amazing to read because of it’s source.
by Al Rantel
“…Forcing a change to an institution as fundamental and established by civilization as marriage is deemed by gay activists and other cultural liberals as the equivalent of the Good Housekeeping seal of approval for homosexuality itself. The reasoning goes that if someone can marry someone of the same sex then being gay is as acceptable and normal as being short or tall. While I certainly do not think people should be judged by who they choose to love or how they choose to live their lives, the cultural liberals in America are after more than that. They want to force others to accept their social view, and declare all those who might have an objection to their social agenda to be bigots, racists, and homophobes to be scorned and forced into silence.
The gay left has still not matured into a position of self-empowerment, but is still committed by and large to the idea that the rest of society must bless being gay in every way imaginable. This includes public parades in all major cities to remind everyone else of what some people like to do in their private bedrooms while in the same breath demanding to be left alone…”
Juxtapose that with the following statement by Mayor Newsom in his now famous video clip about the doors being wide open, whether we like it or not… and the point is really brought home for me, that this truly is about more than love. It’s about a lot of things, primarily putting the needs of a few above the good of the whole….Whether you like it or not.