Whether You Like It Or Not–My needs above yours

Whether You Like It Or Not

My needs above yours…at any cost.

In my post, “It’s Not Just About Love” I brought up the idea that there are more intentions, more drives at play with the same sex marriage debate than just love.  There is more at stake as well, but for a moment I want to focus on the intentions, the goals of the gay movement.  They say it’s just about love, but I think it’s about affirmation and acceptance, about domination of ideas, my needs above yours at any cost.

Our friends in the gay community ask us to accept changing the definition of marriage from one man and one woman, because their heart’s desires are excluded.  Are we unfair?  Biased?  Bigoted?  Homophobic?  No.  The idea that desires sometimes go unmet for the greater good is part of life for responsible adults.  Gay marriage at the expense of our children’s development, and our social stability is not a responsible path.  If my heart’s desire is to two partners, I am free to act on that desire, but I am not free to call it marriage, no matter how much I may want it and feel lost without it.  The consequences for society are too great.

It seems that there is a need in the gay community for affirmation, for society to stop “looking down” on the gay lifestyle.  There is a tendency to blame all the misery they feel, and the harm they do to themselves and others on society because their lifestyle choices are not morally accepted in society.  Somehow everything is supposed to change, people will be happy,  once they’re accepted.  How does changing the definition of marriage all of a sudden bring the light of happiness into a same sex couple’s life like we’re being told it will?  It doesn’t.

I’ve made enough mistakes in my life to know, that just because someone says what I’m doing is ok, it doesn’t make the guilt I feel go away.  People have no effect on God’s laws.  If it’s wrong now, it will still be wrong even if all the courts in the land say it’s not.  Morality is not peer driven.  Does the gay community believe their misery will be lifted if we’re all affirming their lifestyle by inclusion?  The guilt will not go away, it will just spread as we include our children in the sphere of exposure.  If you’re not happy now, changing the definition of marriage won’t make you happy either.

Here’s an article that was amazing to read because of it’s source.

Gay Talk Show Host Opposes Gay Marriage

by Al Rantel

“…Forcing a change to an institution as fundamental and established by civilization as marriage is deemed by gay activists and other cultural liberals as the equivalent of the Good Housekeeping seal of approval for homosexuality itself. The reasoning goes that if someone can marry someone of the same sex then being gay is as acceptable and normal as being short or tall. While I certainly do not think people should be judged by who they choose to love or how they choose to live their lives, the cultural liberals in America are after more than that. They want to force others to accept their social view, and declare all those who might have an objection to their social agenda to be bigots, racists, and homophobes to be scorned and forced into silence.

The gay left has still not matured into a position of self-empowerment, but is still committed by and large to the idea that the rest of society must bless being gay in every way imaginable. This includes public parades in all major cities to remind everyone else of what some people like to do in their private bedrooms while in the same breath demanding to be left alone…”

Juxtapose that with the following statement by Mayor Newsom in his now famous video clip about the doors being wide open, whether we like it or not… and the point is really brought home for me, that this truly is about more than love.  It’s about a lot of things, primarily putting the needs of a few above the good of the whole….Whether you like it or not.



  1. Abby said,

    October 13, 2008 at 11:57 am

    Your blog is 100% right.

    Voting YES! on Prop.8 is a vote for our American Freedoms!!

    So many peaceful people supporting prop 8. have been threatened, sometimes violently and with death threats, by those pushing for same-sex mar-rage. That tells us exactly what the same-sex crowd’s intentions are and what lengths they will go to to get what they want. You know, it isn’t just about marriage, as crucial as marriage is.

    They want to take our freedoms away! I can say that with confidence because it is already happening in many areas of our nation. Your blog gives some of those events but there are many blogs out there giving ample evidence and proof that our freedoms are being trampled by the same-sex special interest crowd.

    From my first hand experience, a little old lady told me she was too afraid to make public her beliefs for traditional marriage because she was scared of what her same-sex proponent neighbors would do to her , since they had already damaged parts of her property.That is the crowd that will be unleashed if prop. 8 fails. Our very freedoms will be challenged, and so will our children’s freedoms be challenged. Our private lives and spritual beliefs will be challenged.

    I don’t see it ending anywhere as they relentlessly pursue same-sex laws instead of using their engery to end world hunger, or help our troops get body armor in Iraq, or help clean up the planet.

    One same-sex proponent told me churches won’t be hurt if they obey the law…yea, he means the NEW laws that restrict religious freedom.

    The same-sex proponents have clever arguments, but it’s all words and logic games, and attempts to confuse us and attempts to put guilt on us for standing up for freedom– but they’ve already lied– a true Amercian freedom lover would never try to make someone feel guilty for standing up for what they believe in! They’ve already taken 5 & 6 year olds out of school to attend a lesbian wedding in a school-sponsored fieldtrip.
    They won’t stop there.

    I’m proud to stand with you and vote YES! on prop. 8
    and vote yes for freedom.


  2. Troy said,

    October 16, 2008 at 3:17 am

    Very well put Angela, I have seldom read it so clearly put. It was a pleasure to read, thanks for writing it. Yes on prop 8!

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