Voice of Our Actions


The Picture is Clear—It’s Time to Speak

Every experience, every story, every image painted on the mind through various modes of communication is aggregated into a whole that is perception.  My perception of the world and the forces in it has shifted with the marriage debate the last few months.  Suddenly individual stories come together to form a movement, a purpose.

While some may be painting the roses red, masking support for either one side of the marriage debate or the other, a surprising number have come out and clearly chosen sides.  Politicians, businesses, friends, individuals have spoken and been counted.

The great debate over same sex marriage has created a great clarity in the culture wars.  Proposition 8 acted as a sifter, or catalyst for decision, that brought this clear division between viewpoints and forced many to take a stand either on one side or the other.   With that clarity we see the sharpening edges of this truth, and with it comes a great awakening in the realization that the opposition to traditional values has more strength than many had ever supposed.

We see the world as through a glass darkly, imperfectly.  There are movements and efforts day to day that we only catch fleeting glimpses of, and in our uncertainty we may be tempted to say, it is nothing.  Those scurryings in the shadow have become clearer in California, but California is only a small part of the national and global moral struggle, the current battlefront being no less than marriage and family.  As this debate moves from one shore to the other and beyond, those moments of clarity will continue, forming a more precise idea of the world and the forces moving it…and seeing clearly, we are asked to choose.

Clarity…what does that give us?  The ability to act.  What then should we do?  What action can be taken to counteract this great force whose influence we see glimpses of all around us?

What we have seen here in the last month or two has been a gift.  It’s forced people to choose, to take sides, sometimes openly.  On the side of the gay rights advocates are businesses like Google, McDonald’s, and Apple.  There are leaders, politicians and many more.  For those of us who have chosen to stand on the side of traditional marriage and values, the numbers are greater, but the voices willing to speak out are fewer, and as we have seen, for good reason.

We’ve seen what the gay rights advocates have done with their voices.  They speak with violence, with derision, with the heavy arm of popular and legal coercion.  The casualties mount, names that are becoming household familarities as this discussion continues from the ballot box of California, Arizona and Florida to the kitchen tables of our great nation.  eHarmony, Leatherby’s, Marjorie Christoffersen, Scott Eckern….the list is long, and will continue to grow.

The picture is growing clearer and those who stand on the side of traditional marriage give a gift we ought to prize with support.  The time of blissful ignorance is over.  It is necessary to raise our voices and be heard, to band together for strength and unity to withstand the bully tactics of the opposition.

We cannot afford to be bullied into silence.  It’s time to band together with common goals in support of leaders, businesses and individuals.   Let the voice of our actions, votes and dollars follow values for informed consumerism.  There are many who have stuck their necks out in support of marriage and who risk suffering for it.  Beyond just a one time action, speaking with this powerful voice has got to become a way of life to be heard.

Each voice silent is a voice for the opposition.  The battle is well underway.

Mosaic Mural Painting: “Adam” — by Lewis Lavoie
(modeled after God Creates Adam” by Michelangelo)


  1. deeps0uth said,

    November 22, 2008 at 10:26 pm

    Amen! I agree completely. I remember writing my thoughts after watching a BYU Forum featuring the brilliant legal giant, Robert George. One of the things he said that struck me the most echoes what you have just said here: “Our problem is not so much that people are gone and sunk in moral relativism and so won’t listen. Our problem is that we don’t make the argument, or we don’t make it often enough or well enough, with enough conviction, determination.”

    You can see the entire forum (with quality thoughts) at this lady’s blog:


    Thank you for your rallying cry!

  2. debbie said,

    November 23, 2008 at 12:01 am

    Beetle, excellent. You hit the mark. I was out running today, and had similar thoughts. You do a much better job than I with your words. Thank you for allowing us to “see through” this glass. The line is drawn, the question now, to me, is how wide does the chasm become. When does it become to late, when someone realizes they chose the wrong side, the pivot point that is mentioned in “Liberal Fascism”. I chose once before, and it was correct, and so I choose again to stand on the side of right. As it was once said in a similar time, “in memory of our God, our religion, and freedom, and our peace, our wives and our children”.
    I will stand and be counted.
    So, with that being said, how do we get started?

  3. roland said,

    November 23, 2008 at 12:11 am

    This week’s speaking out activity is adding my name to the petition on Meridian Magazine asking Gov Schwarnegger to stop going against the will of the people and to uphold Prop 8 and to condemn violence and harassment aimed at law abiding citizens.

  4. November 23, 2008 at 1:39 am

    Hey Debbie, have you heard about the Digital Network Army? It was a google group started by a Proposition 8 grassroots activist to help organize our online efforts. It was great! Every day we would receive an email assignment from the Digital Network Army (DNA) captain to visit a youtube video, news article, etc. and make a comment. Or sometimes he would ask us to blog about a current event related to marriage. It took only a few minutes, but it really kept me informed about current Prop 8 issues, plus it allowed our side of the story to be heard. Shortly after November 4th, the team captain disbanded the DNA, but I just got an email yesterday that it’s up and running again! It sounds like it will be modified to help with the legal battle over Prop 8, but also to help with the wider fight to preserve traditional marriage everywhere. Interested? Go here to join: http://groups.google.com/group/digarmy

  5. lizziejane99 said,

    November 23, 2008 at 2:59 am

    Love it! You are so motivational and inspirational. Excellent pep talk. Now, if I may, here’s a here’s a little plug for “how” one might get involved.

    Join the DNA (Digital Network Army) today! Right now!

    Join the fight to protect marriage and family. Pitch in a few minutes each day. Make your voice heard online! It’s quick, it’s easy, it’s effective. Be counted among the hundreds of marriage defenders that already belong to the DNA. We are growing fast and growing strong, but we can ALWAYS use more help!

    Sign up here:


  6. leftcoastvoter said,

    November 23, 2008 at 12:33 pm

    Over 5 million people in California voted to preserve moral values. Each of us can be heard if we stand up together. The DNA is a way to join together to stay informed and work together to be heard.


  7. Christina said,

    November 23, 2008 at 12:40 pm

    I remember seeing something about dna just before the election, but I didn’t know how to join. Thanks for the link.

  8. mambo said,

    November 23, 2008 at 12:44 pm

    Crusader, so it’s like a club? Sounds subversive.

  9. Christina said,

    November 23, 2008 at 12:46 pm

    Ok, I joined. Wow. Army. Sounds kind of involved but we’ll see. I’ll let you know how it goes. It’s about time someone started something like this!

  10. beetlebabee said,

    November 23, 2008 at 12:52 pm

    Yeah, I remember the DNA, they had some good tips on how to get the word out via blogs. It’s almost an alternative media outlet like drudge, only more specific to marriage and family. I thought they died with the election, I’m glad to hear they’re up and running again.

    Going national is the right idea really because it’s not just a one state fight. We had Florida and Arizona that we won, but we lost Massachusetts and Connecticut. I’m hoping to see some prop 8 type work out of Connecticut soon.

    New York is on the radar too. Anyone heard what’s going on in NY?

  11. prop8discussion said,

    November 23, 2008 at 2:34 pm

    i heard some of the democrat senators they elected are very traditional with family values– and that they won’t allow a same-gender marriage bill.

    i’ll look for the article.

  12. C Smith said,

    November 23, 2008 at 5:46 pm

    I completely condemn any violence and harassment on either side of this argument. Certainly no one wants anyone to suffer like the families of Mathew Sheppard, Gwen Araujo, the survivors of Stonewall or anyone that the Reverend Fred Phelps has harassed.

    Militant gays should be respectful of peoples right to worship and express their difference of opinion – anything other than peaceful protests or legal action is unacceptable and does not help their cause.

    However, this is a case of law. You have the right to engage in what you view as a traditional marriage. No one can take that right away from you nor should they.

    However – prop 8 is unjust as homosexuality is not against the law.

    Homosexuals are protected by the law when it comes to hiring practices and
    housing similar to other minorities. They therefor should have the same rights as anyone else to marry. This includes atheists, convicted felons, and people of non-judeo christian faiths.

    While I’m sure someone on this site will argue that homosexual marriage will lead to polygamy (against the law – won’t happen), people marrying animals (you have to be able to agree to a contract and sign your name and unless you have a very talented cat or dog – it won’t happen) and the downfall of society (so far Mass. hasn’t burned down and turned into a brothel), the fact of the matter is the law is very clear. Someone else’s marriage does not define yours.

  13. { Lisa } said,

    November 23, 2008 at 10:11 pm

    It may not define my specific marriage but it will re-define marriage period. And that cannot happen.

  14. C Smith said,

    November 23, 2008 at 10:47 pm

    How? Where does it say that marriage is between one man and one woman?

    Don’t go down the Bible path – its a slippery slope.

  15. Farmer Tad said,

    November 23, 2008 at 11:10 pm

    “They therefor should have the same rights as anyone else to marry. This includes atheists, convicted felons, and people of non-judeo christian faiths.”

    They do have the same rights as anyone else to marry. All of these people can marry people of the opposite sex. So can homosexuals. They just choose, instead, to pursue a destructive lifestyle and seek to have it forcibly normalized through governmental processes.

    For a bunch of people so wildly and powerfully angry in the face of supposed “discrimination,” they sure do turn into a pack of pussycats by claiming complete inability to exercise self-control when dealing with their attractions and desires.

    And what you say about Massachusetts is true. It has not turned into a brothel. But it has also been a mere four years since they legalized same-sex marriage. And, while society hasn’t necessarily become comletely immoral, there are things happening there that should not be happening; things that Californians are obviously afraid will happen here as well. And I don’t think that four years is an adequate amount of time to be able to say that nothing is wrong there, so we should do it here. Environmentalists battle daily to make the world better for future generations. I happen to believe that I am doing the same by protecting marriage now.

  16. Lil' Beebop said,

    November 23, 2008 at 11:20 pm

    “Don’t go down the Bible path – its a slippery slope.”

    Wow. Wow. Hang on a sec, I’m still reeling from this. Millions upon millions of people around the world believe the Bible to be the word of God and you just completely disregard their opinion/belief because, as you claim, it is a “logical fallacy?” Like I said, wow.

    You just brilliantly proved what MJ Sobran once said two decades ago, “Far from equalizing unbelief, secularism has succeeded in virtually establishing it….What the secularists are increasingly demanding, in their disingenuous way, is that religious people, when they act politically, act only on secularist grounds….A religious conviction is now a second-class conviction, expected to step deferentially to the back of the secular bus, and not to get uppity about it.”


  17. mommycatz said,

    November 24, 2008 at 12:05 am

    you said it, beebop. Thank you.

  18. amy said,

    November 24, 2008 at 12:15 am

    I think it’s important to remember that the “loudest” voice isn’t always in the majority. We hear of so many terrible things happening to people as a result of this election. And it’s hard not to feel outnumbered. Yet I wonder what percentage of people are creating all the noise? And I worry, will they get their way the same way a child gets their way when throwing a temper tantrum? Whining and crying so much that the parents give in just to keep them quiet. I think the marriage issue is used just to feel validated toward living a life they know isn’t right. If the law says it’s okay, then it must be okay.

  19. beetlebabee said,

    November 24, 2008 at 12:36 am

    The threat is that the minority in this case is very vocal and very well funded and they are progressively making progress against traditional values in society and replacing them. The biggest instance so far has been the strong arming of eHarmony.

    That’s really a mind boggling step that their movement has been able to take simply because they had the loudest voice. It has to be stopped.

  20. Shoes said,

    November 24, 2008 at 2:09 am

    Csmith, according to a site against Prop 8, “Up until 1974 same-sex intimacy was a crime in California.”

    With just that one change in the law in mind, how can the following statement have any power? “While I’m sure someone on this site will argue that homosexual marriage will lead to polygamy (against the law – won’t happen)”

  21. November 24, 2008 at 3:55 am

    i laughed out loud when i read “against the law — won’t happen”

    still laughing.

    very very persuasive. since that is what the GLBT movement is doing now– trying to change the law.

  22. tami said,

    November 26, 2008 at 12:07 pm

    “We’ve seen what the gay rights advocates have done with their voices. They speak with violence, with derision”

    Really??? Gay rights advocates are violent? Despite the many peaceful protests held recently? Hmmm…I didn’t know that demanding equal rights is deemed as being “violent”.

    If you don’t want gay marriage, don’t have one. Stop trying to infringe upon the rights of others simply because you disagree. The law has to protect the rights of the minority as the majority has a long long history of stampeding on others rights.

    What I can’t figure out is that people are so concerned about perserving marriage. What about the 50% divorce rate and shows like “Who Wants To Marry A Millionaire”? People get married and divorced like they change their clothes. People get married not for love, but for financial or other reasons which have nothing to do with a committed, loving relationship. Where is the battle cry against this?

    If you want to preserve traditional marriage, pour your time, effort and money into saving the 50% of marriages that fail instead of trying deny 10% of the GLBT population their rights.

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