A Plea for Fathers: by Pearl Diver

Happy Father’s Day

No society should ever promote fatherlessness.

“Overall, fathers play a restraining role in the lives of their children. They restrain sons from acting out antisocially, and daughters from acting out sexually. When there’s no father to perform this function, dire consequences often result both for the fatherless children and for the society in which these children act out their losses.” [Trayce L Hansen, PhD]

Special thanks to Elijah Bossenbroek for the awesome music.

Bookmark and Share




  1. beetlebabee said,

    June 16, 2009 at 1:31 pm

    I’m just adding this to this father’s day tribute thread to remind us how important our fathers are, in real terms. From UFI:

    Roughly 100 years ago, the first fathers’ day celebration in the United States began. During a Mothers’ Day sermon in 1909, Sonora Smart Dodd felt inspired to similarly honor her own father, William Jackson Smart, an American Civil War veteran who single-handedly raised his children after the death of his wife. Since that time, the observance of Fathers’ Day has gradually gained momentum, allowing individuals everywhere to collectively ponder the importance of this role in our society and in our personal lives.

    Searching even further back into American history, fatherhood’s role established the strength of this country from the beginning. During a time when the father specifically was responsible for the discipline, education, and moral upbringing of his children, great leaders like Samuel Chase, Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Jefferson, John Adams, and many other founding fathers were shaped by the patriarchs of their homes. As a result of their worthy efforts, one of the greatest democracies in the world was born out of unbelievable odds.

    This should come as no surprise to those who are familiar with the influence of a strong father in the home. Even now, the evidence of your impact is staggering:

    Your children generally do not engage in sexual activity as early as their peers.

    Your children are at a much lower risk for drug and alcohol abuse, mental illness, suicide, criminality, and sexual abuse

    Your children are much more likely to excel in school

    Your sons are less likely to suffer from confused identities or aggressive behavior

    Your daughters are much less likely to face teen pregnancy, anxiety, or depression

    In addition, your children are less likely to exhibit uncooperative behavior, antisocial behavior, or school suspensions.

    As a community of those who believe in the family, we thank each and every father who daily chooses to be a part of the lives of his children. Not only are you blessing their lives today, but you are also blessing the lives of future communities of which they will be a better part. Like those great men who shaped the founding fathers of the United States, you too are nation-building in a way that no one else can.

  2. Frisco said,

    June 16, 2009 at 4:44 pm

    Will a daughter with two great fathers have an even lesser chance of being sexually promiscuous and/or pregnant at an early age? I am curious.

  3. June 17, 2009 at 2:44 am

    There are always exceptions I suppose.
    From what I have read married biological parents are the best.

  4. Becky said,

    June 17, 2009 at 9:34 am

    A daughter with two fathers still needs her mother. The father/mother family head is God’s perfect will. There is no substitute. There is no alternative that is within God’s design. Pray for America’s families.

  5. beetlebabee said,

    June 17, 2009 at 10:11 am

    I agree. Fathers shouldn’t be optional.

  6. June 17, 2009 at 11:13 pm

    Well, so far studies have shown that children of gay parents do indeed show an increase of risky behavior, including homosexual relationships reported by some who professed not even being attracted to the same sex.

    A lack of absolutes in the lives of these children creates more questions than it does answers.

  7. June 17, 2009 at 11:14 pm

    That response was intended for “Frisco,” comment #2.

  8. David Benkof said,

    June 18, 2009 at 8:37 am

    “A lack of absolutes in the lives of these children creates more questions than it does answers.”

    Some may scoff, but you’ve hit the nail on the head, DRK. It’s no easy thing living a life committed to one’s understanding of the absolutes.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: