Responsible “Non-Monogamy” The New Face of Secularism

Just another notch in the slide of societal dignity at the expense of the most helpless and vulnerable among us.  See this from the Venerable Boston Globe:

Love’s new frontier

“It’s not monogamy. But it’s not cheating or polygamy, either. It’s called polyamory, and with hundreds practicing the lifestyle in and around Boston, is liberal Massachusetts ready to accept it?”

“Jay Sekora isn’t actively looking for an additional relationship, but he admits to occasionally checking a dating site to see who’s out there. Sekora’s girlfriend, Mare, who does not want her last name used here for professional reasons, said she is not pursuing anyone, either, but is “open and welcoming to what might come along.”

“Through the lens of monogamy, this love connection may appear distorted, but that’s not how Sekora and Mare, who is 45, describe their lifestyle. Adherents call it responsible non-monogamy or polyamory, and the nontraditional practice is creeping out of the closet, making gay marriage feel somewhat last decade here in Massachusetts. What literally translates to “loving many,” polyamory (or poly, for short), a term coined around 1990, refers to consensual, romantic love with more than one person. Framing it in broad terms, Sekora, one of the three founders and acting administrator of the 500-person-strong group Poly Boston, says: “There’s monogamy where two people are exclusive. There’s cheating in which people are lying about being exclusive. And poly is everything else.”

What about children?  While all the adults are reliving their irresponsible teen fantasies well into their fifties, what becomes of the unfortunate children of these nonbinding, noncommittal sexual arrangements? Where is the stability?

“Kids deal well with things they think are normal. To the degree that we can help them be comfortable with this, then they will treat it as normal. That’s the theory, anyway,” says Alan Wexelblat who has two kids with wife Michelle (pictured), and a girlfriend.”

In effect, this is the epitome of the “it’s all about love” argument same sex marriage advocates and other groups seeking to tear down societal mores.  Do what you want to do.  Do what is best for YOU.  Forget about the kids, social responsibility, society…that is all subject to interpretation.

What kind of society will children raised this way know how to create?  Who will show them how to be a mom or a dad who is lovingly committed to the family?  How will they know how to commit to their own children if no one shows them how?

Is this where we want to go as a nation?  Here it is the Boston Globe, a major newspaper promoting puff pieces on polyamory as “responsible non monogamy”.  It’s all presented with no reality, all fantasy.  What is there that is “responsible” about adults shacking up with whomever, whenever, at the expense of their kids?

What kind of utopia sacrifices a child’s needs for a parent’s wants?

—Beetle Blogger

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2 Comments

  1. charles said,

    January 14, 2010 at 3:56 pm

    We’ll see how “responsible” promiscuity is when all these folks have to get tests for AIDS and other STD’s.

  2. Karma said,

    January 24, 2010 at 7:01 pm

    That made me nauseous. Poor kids, and poor adults! I can’t imagine a higher degree of happiness then being dedicated to a husband/wife and family in life.


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