School Prom, School Choice

School Prom, School Choice

Is prom night now a human right? Can schools be forced to have prom night?

In Mississippi, a teen who identifies herself as “lesbian” challenged school standards and dress code rules when she petitioned the school district to allow her to wear a tuxedo and escort her girlfriend to the school prom.  The school refused and responded by canceling the dance for all students rather than let the school prom become a platform for political shenanigans.

The girl, backed by her parents and GLSEN, are now suing the school district to force them to hold prom night:

“A lot of schools actually react rather than do the research and find out what the rights of these students are,” said Presgraves.

McMillen says she hopes her fight will make it easier for gay students at other schools facing discrimination.

“I want other kids to know that’s it not right for schools to do that,” she said on CBS’s “The Early Show.”

In 2002, a gay student sued his school district in Toronto to allow him to attend a prom with his boyfriend. A judge later forced the district to allow the couple to attend and stopped the district from canceling the prom.  —Associated Press

Forcing the school to hold prom night?  Do schools owe students prom night?  Or is prom night simply one activity among many offered by the school at their discretion?

Personally, I think the school did the right thing in this case.  If they couldn’t allow a breech of their standards for all students, then they shouldn’t allow it for one student.  In this political environment where upholding standards is merely another wall to be broken down, their choice to avoid the confrontation altogether by canceling the dance is an unfortunate, but equal response.

They aren’t telling her that only she can’t go, they’re telling her that no one can go if standards cannot be upheld.

Is equal treatment enough?  Apparently not.

Forcing the school to not only have prom, but to break their standards in order to do so goes against the freedom of the school and community to decide what standards their children will be subject to in their own community.

There is nothing keeping this girl and her parents from arranging an alternative prom.  People in our area do it all the time.  In many public schools the standards are already so low that parents don’t want their kids attending, and alternatives to proms are popping up all over as public school norms continue to degrade.

With all the alternatives out there, once again it’s obvious that for gay activists, acceptance is the goal— not equality.

—Beetle Blogger

Responsible “Non-Monogamy” The New Face of Secularism

Just another notch in the slide of societal dignity at the expense of the most helpless and vulnerable among us.  See this from the Venerable Boston Globe:

Love’s new frontier

“It’s not monogamy. But it’s not cheating or polygamy, either. It’s called polyamory, and with hundreds practicing the lifestyle in and around Boston, is liberal Massachusetts ready to accept it?”

“Jay Sekora isn’t actively looking for an additional relationship, but he admits to occasionally checking a dating site to see who’s out there. Sekora’s girlfriend, Mare, who does not want her last name used here for professional reasons, said she is not pursuing anyone, either, but is “open and welcoming to what might come along.”

“Through the lens of monogamy, this love connection may appear distorted, but that’s not how Sekora and Mare, who is 45, describe their lifestyle. Adherents call it responsible non-monogamy or polyamory, and the nontraditional practice is creeping out of the closet, making gay marriage feel somewhat last decade here in Massachusetts. What literally translates to “loving many,” polyamory (or poly, for short), a term coined around 1990, refers to consensual, romantic love with more than one person. Framing it in broad terms, Sekora, one of the three founders and acting administrator of the 500-person-strong group Poly Boston, says: “There’s monogamy where two people are exclusive. There’s cheating in which people are lying about being exclusive. And poly is everything else.”

What about children?  While all the adults are reliving their irresponsible teen fantasies well into their fifties, what becomes of the unfortunate children of these nonbinding, noncommittal sexual arrangements? Where is the stability?

“Kids deal well with things they think are normal. To the degree that we can help them be comfortable with this, then they will treat it as normal. That’s the theory, anyway,” says Alan Wexelblat who has two kids with wife Michelle (pictured), and a girlfriend.”

In effect, this is the epitome of the “it’s all about love” argument same sex marriage advocates and other groups seeking to tear down societal mores.  Do what you want to do.  Do what is best for YOU.  Forget about the kids, social responsibility, society…that is all subject to interpretation.

What kind of society will children raised this way know how to create?  Who will show them how to be a mom or a dad who is lovingly committed to the family?  How will they know how to commit to their own children if no one shows them how?

Is this where we want to go as a nation?  Here it is the Boston Globe, a major newspaper promoting puff pieces on polyamory as “responsible non monogamy”.  It’s all presented with no reality, all fantasy.  What is there that is “responsible” about adults shacking up with whomever, whenever, at the expense of their kids?

What kind of utopia sacrifices a child’s needs for a parent’s wants?

—Beetle Blogger